Thursday, May 24, 2012

Tickets: I Asked and You Deserved Them

It was a beautiful morning, a great song was on the radio and there were no cars on the highway… so of course I was zooming.

As it happens, I saw the speed gun locked on my windshield once it was much too late to engage in preventative measures. My speedometer dropped 15 notches in two seconds, but when I saw this cop jump on his bike, I just knew it was for me. I merged in-between two cars in the center lane and drove with my eyes on my rearview mirror because, if I was going to get pulled over, I wanted to see it coming.

Except, I don’t even know where he went. The next 10 miles were driven in a silent fear because, despite being a general do-gooder, normal citizens like me are busted for silly things all the time. Technically, being a smidgen over the speed limit is against the law, but why pick on a princess when there are actual villains wrecking havoc in the city?

And the thing is, I feel like I’m busted for everything. I don’t know how to be sneaky and I always forget where the usual speed traps are. The one text I make is the one a cop sees and the day I get into a fender bender is the day before I renew my expired registration.

Today, however, I’m happy to say that my ghost cop left me alone and I merely worried myself to work. I’m so glad it caused me to reach out and ask what everyone’s last ticket was because the responses I received were nothing short of laughable.

I see now that what we’re left with are a series of vibrant stories of being ticketed for wacky reasons. Cops have united us so that we stand in spite our reprimands with our tickets held high and our personal records stained colorful. In truth, sometimes we deserve a good scolding for the things that we do.

Here are a few responses I got to make you feel better about your last ticket (and I quote, because some of your answers made me laugh out loud):

Jaywalking.
Running a red light in Waikiki on my bicycle.
Speeding. A lot.
Unsafe lane change - so pretty much not using my turn signal.
Parking in a stupid place.
Going 28 in a 25. I actually paid it because I'm a sucker.
Taking pictures of [my son] with my cell phone while driving.
Noise violation for blasting death metal in Manoa graveyard at midnight.


What are some other silly or embarrassing tickets you've received?

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

Breaking Up In The Age of Social Media

Breaking up in the age of social media – I’ve never done it before. I was considerably late jumping on the Facebook train and ended my three-year relationship without needing to endure a single status change. There were no photos to untag or cuddly profile pictures to delete, just an untainted Facebook page waiting for me to fall in love again.

But then I found myself lost in 2012, trying to manage the second big breakup that mattered. Times have changed since my first heartbreak and the landscape isn’t what it was. There’s now public proof that I was once the second half of a romantic duo, our photos haunting albums, our history so clearly displayed with Facebook’s friendship feature. I felt hapless, like I was standing alone in front of my romantic ruins, expected to clean the social slate for the next guy to come along. The task was as daunting as it was heartbreaking, and, months later, there’s still a year and a half of history I’ve yet to untag.

Which begs the question, what is the proper post-breakup protocol? How is a person expected to break up in the age of social media?

It’s important to remember that much of what you do on Facebook and Twitter is accessible, at least to your select followers. There’s an increased level of messiness that comes with a separation that’s invariably public. All it takes is an insensitive misstep to propel a touchy issue into a communal train wreck.

So take the initial steps in stride. That relationship status, as frustratingly symbolic as it can be, will eventually need to change. However, instead of using Facebook’s drop-down box as spiteful catharsis, take a few days to make these changes. I opted to make my relationship status entirely private. As a friend so wisely put it, “No one needs to know who doesn't already know.”

There’s also the compelling temptation to lurk your other half’s networks, see where they’ve checked in to and who they’ve been tweeting. There’s no need for ostentatious, spiteful romancing with other people, so be respectful and keep your fraudulent flirting off the media grid. Nothing is more hurtful than thinking your love has already found another, and with emotions precarious, it doesn’t take much to believe you’ve been replaced.

So, for your personal health and mental stability, consider taking the final daunting steps of unfriending or blocking your ex. Sometimes we need to take advantage of technology to cut us off from our addictions, and over-analyzing every one of your ex’s new tweets is one of them. Time itself will help bring solidarity, and having access to the social reminders that your love is alive and well (and god forbid, flourishing) might not be what you need in your time of recovery.

While I'm still navigating the volatile currents in the wake of my own breakup, I realize it's important to resist the urge to plague my social networks with my woes. It's oddly therapeutic to set it free and let it fester in public. However, I'd much rather be the girl who handled her heartbreak with grace than the crazy Fraulein who set Twitter on fire with her bitterness and misery. He and I are now single by status, officially unfriended and both managing (with respect) in this delicate context of technology. I'd like to think we're doing it right.

Remember that the symptoms of withdrawal are as formidable as they are temporary, so throw on your heartbreak mix tape and sing along.

Here’s one to get you started.



So, what do you think is the most difficult part about breaking up in the age of social media?

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Today is Comic Sansday

Perhaps it’s because I was grass-fed on Comic Sans, that once invasive species of typography, that I’ve grown to despise it. In the late 90s, it was overly proliferate within AOL chatrooms, chain mail and Angelfire homepages. We instant messaged in comic sans and lit up our text with every illegible chroma. Needless to say, I was 14 years old and sound judgment was not yet a virtue.

And still, I remember my confusion when, years later, my best friend changed his default text to Veranda. We were still teens, but the Comic Sans bandwagon had reached its peak and suffered from mass mutiny. The world, it seemed, was sick of fun-loving, fantastic fonts.

The problem was the way in which the text was habitually misused, often chosen to convey serious messages when the font could hardly be taken seriously itself. Warning signs and passive-aggressive notes written in Comic Sans served as ignorant juxtapositions. I spent the last four semesters learning German out of a workbook entirely decked out in CS and it was the silent joke of the department. I couldn’t look at a list of verb conjugations without feeling like my second-language learning abilities were being shamelessly humored.


But while Comic Sans remains the font we all love to hate, it’s important to acknowledge that, like any typeface, it was created for a particular purpose. Back in 1994, font designer, Vincent Connare, was commissioned to develop a child-like type suitable for software called Microsoft Bob. Comic Sans was not meant to exist outside this domain, but the font wasn’t completed in time for the release of the product and so it was instead included in the Windows 95 Plus! Pack. The rest, as they say, is terrible, terrible typographical history.

However, it wasn’t until recently that I was right there with the Helvetica fans, too pretentious with my text to advocate for the laughingstock of font. But when I reached out to the people around me, I realized that my antagonism was sorely displaced. I interviewed a handful of students nearly 10 years my junior, only to find that they had hardly an opinion on Comic Sans at all. Have we spent the last decade so passionately trampling out Comic Sans only for the next generation to adopt a passive apathy over our cause?

And so I took to the Internet, interested to see how the Comic Sans bell curve was taking shape. What I found was a font pushing back from the obstructions of mockery and loathing, a zombie typeface with a renewed, albeit abused, vigor. There’s a Tumblr dedicated to revamping old corporate logos into its Comic Sans counterparts and an impassioned monologue of anger from the typeface itself.

But there’s no better way to convey the undeniable Comic Sans upswing than through the latest and catchiest pro-CS movement from YouTube user, Gunnarolla’s, most recent creation: The Comic Sans Song


So lets shelve our Trebuchet for a day and pay homage to the most resilient of fonts. Comic Sans, you horrendous Beanie Baby, amateur typeface: today I pay homage to you.